Why Do Relationships Fail

I set the stage for this post in my previous one. So let's talk about why relationships fail.

The problem is that beneath all the false love and all the lies about love, there is something going on underneath the surface.

The problem is that men have not found God. They are separated from their Creator and instead they look to woman to support what they are.

But what they are is a fallen male, one that came from the woman and looks to the woman to support, reinforce, and reassure the fallen thing that he is.

Now he cannot help how he was born. Nor can he help that he came from a home with a weak man and a dominant woman. But what remains to be seen is whether he will ve awkened by his suffering and the suffering that he sees his wife going through, as she needs something from him (real love) which he does not yet have.

Seeing her suffering, if he cries out to his Creator for answers, and looks within for the wisdom and love that he does not now have, then he becomes better. He becomes the man that he should be, and she now has a noble knight for a husband instead of a weak or violent mamma's boy.

She, on the other hand, has a problem with men. Her father was not there for her, and other men she has known used her instead of really loving her, so she has a hatred for men. She may not, and probably does not realize it. It is buried under the surface and is also covered up by all her service and the loving ministrations that she does for others. She serves men, or her kids, to prove her worth and also to make up for the unconscious guilt for hating men.

Often the hatred is hidden in judgment. Because men fall so low and become such nothings, it is easy for her to feel superior to them, especially when they keep crying out to her for love. So she has a superior sort of hate, which takes the form of judgment.

So now you see how both partners contribute to and exacerbate each other's problem. She needs true love, a fatherly corrective love, from her husband who truly loves her. Instead of taking advantage of her temptation--which men require of women to serve his fallen ego--he should quietly and patiently let the temptation pass. Instead of looking for sexual support for his fallen male ego, one based in weakness and which lives on responding to her temptation, and instead of then hating her for her temptation which he senses is degrading him--he loves her by not hating her. He loves her by not using her.

The hatred of men goes all the way  back to the Garden of Eden. The serpent hated humans, and he used the woman to tempt Adam. Adam was weak and ambitious. He did not love Eve and He did not love God--if he had, he would have asked Eve to put the apple down.

He went for the temptation, and you know the rest of the story. Paradise was lost, and hell was now the authority on earth, not God. The serpent of knowledge, the serpent of temptation, was now in charge, and still is today. It entered through through the woman and ascended to the throne.

The woman's love is a lie. But she cannot help herself. She cannot help but degrade a man. Where is the man who will love her for herself and not for the lie that is in her. Where is the man who will not leap eagerly for her sexual support and then look to another when he he becomes more degerate and requires stronger lies? Where is the man who will not resent her when she tempts him or nags him? Where is the man who love her for herself and does not go for the sexual teasing witchy side or hate her for the nagging bitchy side?


Today the serpent is still operating through the woman and through the institutions of culture. Women are used by men, who draw up the serpent in her to support his fallen pride. And women hate and get their revenge on the men who do not love them by taking their life force.

Some women realize that they have a dark side, some do not. Some enjoy the power that goes to them when men go for her temptation (actually the serpent operating through her). It is the lie that the man loves, not her.

No wonder she feels used. She is used by the dark side, which becomes more active and torments her when the man calls up the dark side in her and again when she is tempted by the mans' weakness and use to hate him.

Many women also have a hate in them that is from their mother. And where did her mother get it--from her mother, and all the way back to Eve. A woman can have three hates in her: her own hatred of men for failing her, her mother's hatred, and the serpent's hatred of men.

Forgiveness is the answer. Meditation, the right kind of meditation, also helps. When the woman can stand back and separate from the hate, she will be able to see her own hate, and repent of it. She will then eventually see what is not her hate, but is someone else's hate in her.

By standing back mentally and by crying out to her Creator, the hate in her will be bound or be less active.

How beautiful it would be if she awakens from her trance of hate and from her lifetime of playing the role of temptation and sees that she is married to a good man.

Even should she drop her judgments toward men and awaken to discover that there does not appear to be much good in her husband, her soul will be safe because she has let go of the hatred.

Remember the beautiful scene in the Star Wars movie where   Luke Skywalker and his father had a tender moment together. After all the years of enmity, in the touching scene, Darth Vader who is dying, asks Luke to take off Darth's helmet. The two, father and son, are united. Luke discovers that there is good in his father.

How many men never know their real wife, and how many wives never know their real husband. They have both been entranced, and both carried traumas and enmities going back to childhood, even hatreds and misunderstandings imparted to them from their parents and from men who use and hate women and women who are used and then use and judge men.

How beautiful if the real woman were to come forth and meet the real man, and the two get to know each other, in real love and appreciation instead of use and resentment. Truly they could usher in a Paradise on earth and live happily ever after.