What is the Number One Cause for Marriages to Faile

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Roland Trujillo, author, lecturer, marriage coach,
author, radio host, pastor, husband and dad,
introduces his new comprehensive look at the delights,
the challenges
and the mysteries of marriage.

For over 20 years, Roland has been helping couples
repair their relationships and move forward to
optimal living.

Roland is now bringing his insights,
based in compassion and spiritual principles, to a
new level in this unique look at the perils, pitfalls,
and promises of relationships.

The Myths and Mysteries of Marriage - making relationships work.

318 pages.

Written by Dr. Roland Trujillo PhD in Pastoral Psychology and based on 20 years of counseling and coaching couples


Here are just some of the topics discussed


The Dating and Mating Game Is Not a Game
“A Rose by Any Other Name is Still a Rose”
Why I Decided to Become a Pastor
Where to Find Real Solutions to your Relationship Woes
Why Couples Argue
Myths of Marriage
Sex in Marriage – The Shocking Truth
How to Forgive and Forget
How to Apologize and Clear the Air with Dignity
Just How Important is Dad?
Marriage Counseling for Men
Can I Reconcile with My Husband, Wife, or Child?
Is Food Your Secret Lover and Enabler?
Dealing with Hard Times
Adam & Eve: The First Dysfunctional Family
My Husband is Annoying
My Wife Asked Me to Move Out –What Should I
Do?
Advice to Divorced Moms
My Wife Cheated on Me – Now What?
Finding the Best Marriage Advice – Trust Your Instincts
The Strong Family—Ten Lessons in Faithfulness



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A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers. -- Ruth Bell Graham

"Why so many marriages fail" is something many of us have wondered about. And when husbands and wives resent each other, they are troubled. Wives and husbands do not want to resent their mate.

Especially when they can see that their partner is a decent person--not perfect, of course--but basically a good guy or a good gal .
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Let me begin by saying that the key to happiness, peace of mind, and better relations is to let go of resentment and judgment. As I've said many times: it is our resentment that hurts us more than what another has done to us.

What is the number one reason marriages fail?

Some say it is because of arguing over money, some say infidelity, and some say sexual incompatibility.

But there are deeper reasons. One has to do with what blocks love: resentment. The other has to do with lack of understanding.

If I had to pick one, I would pick resentment. . . . . .

Resentment is the handmaiden of selfishness. And selfishness is the evidence of pride. Yes, we are all fallen ("we have all fallen short," said Paul ), but we can't use this as an excuse. Life is a school. And marriage is a framework in which to work out our differences and learn to be unselfish. As one very wise counselor asked: "Are you getting better or getting bitter?" We should be getting better.


Christian marriages are failing for the same reason as all marriages do. The amazing thing is that Christianity does have the answers, but Christians sometimes just don't take note of the "little" emotion of resentment and how it affects their relationships.

In 30 years of listening to Christian radio (and secular radio), and daily reading of books, magazines, and online, I have only heard 3 people (other than myself) really focus on resentment and talk about it in a meaningful way. Others just talk about it in passing or totally ignore it. (If you want to know who these three people are, send me an email).


Yet giving up resentment is the key to relating properly to others, especially our partners and kids.

I am hoping to make husbands, wives, marriage ministers, and counselors aware of the often overlooked factor of resentment.

Read more about Pastor Roland's plan to rescue relationships in his book Marriage Matters - Lessons from the Past, Hope for the Future. Preview free and receive the book as our token of appreciation for a donation of any amount.



Roland Trujillo, author, lecturer, marriage coach,
author, radio host, pastor, husband and dad,
introduces his new comprehensive look at the delights,
the challenges
and the mysteries of marriage.

For over 20 years, Roland has been helping couples
repair their relationships and move forward to
optimal living.

Roland is now bringing his insights,
based in compassion and spiritual principles, to a
new level in this unique look at the perils, pitfalls,
and promises of relationships.

The Myths and Mysteries of Marriage - making relationships work.

318 pages.

Written by Dr. Roland Trujillo PhD in Pastoral Psychology and based on 20 years of counseling and coaching couples



Here are just some of the topics discussed


The Dating and Mating Game Is Not a Game
“A Rose by Any Other Name is Still a Rose”
Why I Decided to Become a Pastor
Where to Find Real Solutions to your Relationship Woes
Why Couples Argue
Myths of Marriage
Sex in Marriage – The Shocking Truth
How to Forgive and Forget
How to Apologize and Clear the Air with Dignity
Just How Important is Dad?
Marriage Counseling for Men
Can I Reconcile with My Husband, Wife, or Child?
Is Food Your Secret Lover and Enabler?
Dealing with Hard Times
Adam & Eve: The First Dysfunctional Family
My Husband is Annoying
My Wife Asked Me to Move Out –What Should I
Do?
Advice to Divorced Moms
My Wife Cheated on Me – Now What?
Finding the Best Marriage Advice – Trust Your Instincts
The Strong Family—Ten Lessons in Faithfulness


To read chapter one free and for information about previewing this relationship success manual, click here